tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7045524330253482541.post4067791704866738594..comments2024-01-04T22:19:45.990-08:00Comments on Jim McBeath: True, Kind, NecessaryJim McBeathhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10541190774989580614noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7045524330253482541.post-70600017582803942922013-06-15T18:33:53.955-07:002013-06-15T18:33:53.955-07:00Being a stickler for the truth is fine; but what i...Being a stickler for the truth is fine; but what is the truth? Truth has often been used to mislead because you can speak it without including specific pieces of the 'big picture'. I didn't want to think up an example so Googled one:<br /><br />Someone invites you to a meeting and you do not want to go.<br /><br />Truth: I don't want to meet with you.<br />Lie: My car broke down so I can't make it then.<br />Misleading truth: I already have a meeting (in 10 minutes which will be done in 5 and leave me plenty of time to make yours; but, I really don't want to attend yours and hope this will throw you off).<br /><br />So, I'm a stickler for honesty. Honesty is being both truthful AND forthcoming. It never misleads. So, maybe I'm arguing semantics, but my three gates would be:<br /><br />Is it true and honest?<br />Is it necessary?<br />Is it kind?<br /><br />There's also sometimes a fourth gate that gets a little metaphysical but can be valid:<br /><br />Does it improve upon the silence?<br /><br />If what you're saying is true, necessary, and kind but would still contribute nothing positive to the conversation then maybe you're talking about the wrong thing?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13716320952684775134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7045524330253482541.post-7845416694743528842008-09-02T23:03:00.000-07:002008-09-02T23:03:00.000-07:00I think Dale Carnegie would have agreed with you.I think Dale Carnegie would have agreed with you.Chris Bouzekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08563099319244593236noreply@blogger.com